- What kind of “stuff” do you talk about?
Girls PACT talks about all sorts of stuff – home stuff, school stuff, relationship stuff, life stuff. We know that all this stuff contributes to our feelings. When we are having negative feelings about ourselves, we compromise our self-worth and engage in self-harm. Self-harm manifests in a variety of ways including promiscuity, unprotected sex, binge drinking, cutting, recreation drugs and overeating. Instead of being ashamed of our circumstances, Girl PACT embraces “stuff” and empowers girls to learn from their situations and circumstances rather than engage in self-harming activities.
- Do you talk about sex?
Girls PACT knows that low self-esteem manifests itself in a variety of self-harming behaviors – promiscuity, unprotected sex, binge drinking, cutting, recreation drugs, and overeating, to name a few. Our mission is to combat unplanned pregnancy because of its long term impact on the individual, as well as the child and family. Studies show that one out of every two pregnancies is to a woman who says she is either not ready to have a baby or does not want to have a child at all (Brookings Institution). So, yes, we talk about sex. Lets face it, most young women ages 15-24 are not ready to have baby and may not know if they want to raise one in the future. If a women is already struggling with her stuff (low self-esteem), she is not going to manage the stuff that goes along with being a mom. Girls PACT teaches young women to love themselves first. After that is accomplished, she can consider bringing another person into this world.
It’s important to note, just because a teen is curious and has questions about sex, it does not mean she is sexually active! We hope that our girls choose to wait, but the reality is that they will eventually mature into a woman and have romantic relationships . Girls PACT includes facts about safe sex because, at some point in her life, this knowledge will be essential for maintaining a healthy relationship.
- Do you teach abstinence?
Girls PACT teaches that abstinence from sexual activity is the only effective method to prevent unplanned pregnancy and STD’s/STI’s. However, Girls PACT also teaches other forms of birth control. We will never tell a young woman what to do or not to do, but we will certainly educate her on her options, should she choose to be sexually active.
- Do you give out condoms and birth control?
Girls PACT does give out condoms on occasion, but Girls PACT does not prescribe birth control. We do talk about personal values and how they relate to our relationship choices, though. And, should a young women decide to be sexually active, Girls PACT will encourage her to be safe.
- Do you talk about abortion?
Girls PACT does talk about abortion. We are always respectful of religious beliefs and personal choice, but certainly discuss the facts and debunk myths related to abortion. Again, Girls PACT will never tell a young woman what to do or not to do, but we will certainly prepare her for the consequences of her actions.
- My daughter already has a baby. Can she be a part of Girls PACT?
Yes! Statistically, 25% of teen moms have a 2nd child within 24 months of their first baby. Girls PACT knows that we all make mistakes and it’s these same mistakes that make us stronger. We value the wisdom and advice of current teen moms and want to help them manage their stuff, too.
- I think my daughter is depressed. Can Girls PACT help her?
Girls PACT facilitators are not experts in mental health, but we are extremely good listeners, very understanding and sympathetic. Girls PACT has experience with depression and the behaviors it manifests, but we cannot replace mental health professionals. We can, however, offer a very supportive group to help your daughter through her difficult time.
- My daughter is identifying as gay or bi-sexual. Can she be a part of Girls PACT?
Yes! Many young women that identify as gay or bi-sexual are at risk for unplanned pregnancy. Often times, these women are confused and/or ashamed by their feelings and make choices necessary to fit in with their peers. Sometimes this manifests in drinking, drugs and partner-pressure situations. Girls PACT empowers all young women – straight, gay, bi, transgender – be confident in herself and safe in her choices.
- Do you have scholarship “stuff”?
Yes, we offer scholarships for members. Girls PACT wants every young women to feel good about herself and pursue higher education. However, sometimes our stuff gets in the way of our goals. Girls PACT provides “Homegirl Hookups” to our girls that are having “one of those days”. We will pamper our young women with gym memberships, workout clothes, running shoes, manicures/pedicures, haircuts, massages, bus tokens, gas money, interview suits, fancy handbags, tablets, internships or books if it boosts her self-confidence. Please click here to tell us about your “stuff” and make your request (Form)
- Girls PACT sounds awesome! I have a 12 year old daughter. How do I get her involved?
Girls PACT serves young women ages 15-24. We know that a young girl’s self-esteem plummets at the age of 9, but we have limited resources and prefer to help the older population with their stuff. Girls PACT expects to grow and meet the needs of younger girls, but we cannot accommodate at this time.
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